As A Pakistani Feminist, I Want To Clarify We DON’T Hate All Men
I know what you are probably thinking. Another damn post about feminism. Why can we keep publishing this”crap”? Marasiyat is yet again boosting this particular Western, man-hating schedule and attacking the very foundations of our ideology. Hadh hai.
Here is the thing, however — it is not a man-hating schedule whatsoever.
A good deal of Pakistanis (and folks from the rest of the planet, naturally — maybe not all Pakistanis, you know how it goes) appear to believe that by being a feminist or thinking in feminism, you have signed up to the Amazonian lifetime of not allowing men into your island and you invest your lifetime coaching to go to war together. As glamorous as the Wonder Woman franchise gets out that to be, that is not the situation.
Feminism quite literally signifies equality for all sexes concerning societal, political and financial elements.
What (not all) folks confuse it has a title of its own. It is called misandry; a phrase that defines the action of hating men and behaving in a manner that attempts to hurt men specifically. And I am not even making this up. A Ph.D. scholar has described the notion of misandry fairly nicely, and it doesn’t have anything to do with being a feminist.
But this does not count the half-hearted”I Hate Men” and”Men Are Junk” tweets because let’s face it, we are all mentally brought down from the patriarchy sooner or later. Misandry is real, deep-rooted hate; one which may even cause the open expression of hate violence against men.
I really don’t think women would increase up three distinct waves of what’s essentially a historic movement only just to dish men. The patriarchal values which encircle them and attempt to restrict them into being submissive monsters, sure, but maybe not exactly the very same men and women that are unwittingly at precisely the exact same sea of poisonous masculinity and thinking patterns which we are all attempting to swim from.
Let us talk about global instances since men
opening up about the attack is a rarity here. When a famous celebrity, Terry Crews, spoke about his sexual attack publicly, he mentioned that the majority of the assistance he received was out of women. After Jim Bennett opened about being sexually attacked by actress Asia Argento (the exact same girl who stepped forward with accusing Harvey Weinstein and fueled the #MeToo Movement), feminist authors awakened to write about male predators and the way their claims tend to be shamed and tricked to being buried beneath the carpet, especially when the rapist is womanly.
I’ve two brothers of my own, and also exactly what I wish to educate them both is they are powerful and may be powerful, but perhaps not by bottling up their feelings and allowing them to rot inside them. I don’t really need this negativity to repay within their own bones such as direct, to turn them into something which isn’t them and may damage them (God-forbid) another human being.
Like the feminist authors mentioned previously,
I am composing this bit hoping to help the readers somehow, possibly by providing some clarity or allowing them to reflect; about both themselves and their environment in order that they focus on bettering both.
Yes, society is changing, however, it’s gradual. And the battle does not cease until each one of us is absolutely free from the grip the patriarchy has on us. We help each other float till all people are from this muddy water that’s the toxicity embedded within our culture, rather than letting one moan for another to emerge.